Sunday, April 22, 2012

Years of Plenty

I was reading the story of Joseph in Egypt recently, the part where Joseph tells Pharaoh the meaning of his dreams and recommends that Pharaoh find the wisest man in Egypt to manage the grain during the years of plenty so there will be enough to eat when the years of famine come.  Pharaoh thinks this is a great idea and decides Joseph is the man for the job.  I got to thinking that all the years your kids are growing up are years of plenty, not in terms of money (at least not for us), but in terms of all that time you spend together.  You are feasting and you don’t even realize it.  It is a time of abundance, and you kind of take it all for granted and stop noticing and appreciating it because you’re all filled up.  But then, gradually, the time you spend together starts to diminish.  At first, it’s subtle, your kids go to camp, they go on school trips to other countries, they spend more and more time with friends and less and less time at home.  By the end of their senior years in high school, you’re beginning to feel a little hungry, so you gather them in as much as you can for meals and backyard fires and family game nights.  And then, before you know it, just like in Egypt, the years of plenty come to an end.  What follows are not really days of famine, but you do have to start getting along with less.  Sometimes the simplicity is peaceful; other times you get hungry for the old days.  So you do the best you can; you look back on the memories you stored up during the years of plenty.  And as you set just two places at the table, you begin to enjoy the tranquility of this new stage in life.  But you also look forward to the little islands of plenty that appear each time your kids come home. 

8 comments:

  1. Oh Mindy, your analogy is right ON. You have moved me to tears this morning. I can't think of an eloquent way to say thank you for sharing your insight and feelings on your blog, so I will simply say, thank you.

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    1. Thanks so much, Michelle. This means a lot.

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  2. Mindy, I am feeling the same way. Time is slowly slipping away. Our kids have been such a big part of our lives and it is difficult to see this happen. However I know this is God's plan as they leave the nest and learn to fly on their own. But it is not easy! My husband I are at a time in our lives that we feel like we are just graduating from high school and must decide what to do with the rest of our lives. He can retire in June from his current job and is looking for other employment, which may result in a move. Our youngest son is graduating from high school in June. I really enjoy your writings,they are so heartfelt. For such a time as this we will live each day seeking God's will. Blessings to you and yours!

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    1. Thanks, Michele. I love the way you and your husband are embracing this new stage of life.

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  3. Dear Mindy,
    As my girls both finish their graduate degrees in the next few weeks, I can feel every emotion of your elegant words. The bright glow has been replaced by a warm joy for a soft glow. I hesitant to say aloud I have even had a few, WHEN do they go back to college soon moments. However, I will admit acceptance and happiness for them to have their own homes has been the hardest part of parenting I have had to master.
    I look forward to new postings on your journey.

    Barbara McConnell Haverty
    from WAHS(Sally's class) and in Cassadaga now. Maybe we will run into one another at TOPS again someday, it is only been about 15 years since I saw you last. I have wondered if you were still in the area. If you are curious, I found your blog via Michelle Gajda Butler.

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    1. Thank you so much for your lovely comment, Barbara. I remember that meeting in Tops and am surprised we haven't seen each other there in the intervening years-- even though I'm cooking for fewer people most of the time now, it seems like I still spend a lot of time there! So glad Michelle pointed you my way!

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  4. Beautiful, poignant....if the words didn't get me, the two place settings at the table sure did. Thanks for sharing these thoughts.

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    1. At first, I didn't even set the table for two--we ate in the living room or on the porch. I'm making progress!

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